How to Have Difficult Conversations With Family

Difficult conversations are uncomfortable but essential for healthy family relationships.

Prepare Beforehand

Think about what you want to say and why it matters. Write it down if it helps.

Choose the Right Time and Place

Pick a calm, private moment when everyone is relatively relaxed.

Use "I" Statements

Talk about your feelings and concerns rather than blaming or accusing.

Listen Actively

Give others a chance to share their perspective. Listen without interrupting.

Stay Calm

If emotions get heated, take a break and resume when calmer.

Focus on Understanding

The goal is to understand each other, not necessarily to agree.

Follow Up

Sometimes one conversation isn't enough. Plan to revisit topics as needed.

Seek Help if Needed

A family therapist can help facilitate difficult conversations.

Use the End of Life Playbook to prepare for important family conversations.